The bond of sisters

peyton-and-campbell

The other day, I was at the school having lunch with my boys when these two bright rays of sunshine came over for a hug.  They are like my surrogate daughters, so having them at school with us this year has been so much fun!

Getting to see them interact with each other is teaching me so much.

Peyton came over first to chat and while we were talking, Campbell joined the fun. . . just like this.  There was no conversation, no need for a greeting, just arms thrown over and instant engagement.  Peyton didn’t skip a beat in her conversation, but her eyes lit up and a smile spread across her lips.

She knew it was her sister.

There is something so special about what sisters share.  There is this incredibly strong, but often unspoken bond of love and support.  “If you mess with my sister, you mess with me!”  

But one of the best things about sisters, is that there isn’t a need for sameness.

Of course, they share genetics, family systems, and their home, but that’s about where it ends sometimes.  Take these two, I would venture to say they are more different than they are alike ~ from the way they process emotions to the way they enjoy spending their afternoons.  They may look a lot a like, but they are as different as night and day.

In fact, the bond grows stronger in those different places.

It’s in those places they get to learn who they are and who they aren’t.  It’s how sisters learn they are special, and needed.  It’s where they see how their strengths can fit in the world and where they first get to safely try them out.  If you grew up with healthy sister relationships, you’re tracking right along.

If you didn’t, it’s not too late. 

This is my heart.  This is my dream with HeartStories, to create a safe, loving, and supportive community of sisters who show up to do life together.  Sisters who don’t need to be the same, they celebrate your uniqueness.  Sisters who can just walk up from behind and throw their arms over your shoulders and you instantly know.

You know it’s your sister.  

We can live like sisters.  It’s just going to take some practice, because it’s not the way our society encourages women to behave.  But we know there’s a better way.  We were born for this.

You were born for this, sister.  

to more love,

Crystal

P.S. If you’re local, we’ll be showing up for “sister practice” on November 3rd at our Girl’s Night Out.  Would love for you to join us.  You can check it out here.

If you’re not local, you can do this yourself.  Find a friend or two who gets this whole sistering thing and make plans to meet for coffee or dinner.  It has to start somewhere.  Why not let it start with you?

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