Over the years I’ve learned a lot about the importance of kindness. Yes, of course, I’ve always known the golden rule, but I’m a pretty competitive person.
I have this crazy deep need to be right, to win.
It doesn’t matter if I’m driving down the road, picking a checkout lane at the grocery store, or playing a game with my kids, my natural tendency is to try to win. Don’t even get me started on arguments with Scott. Sometimes things come out of my mouth that stun me later.
I’ve seen the worst come out in me when I give in to the desire to prove I’m right.
A few weeks back, I heard a friend talking about a lady named Shirley, who passed away last year after a long battle with cancer. He was talking about how well she lived, how much she loved. What he remembered most about Shirley was the rule she lived by;
It’s more important to be kind than to be right. ~ Shirley Hotchkiss
That hit me like a ton of bricks.
What would happen if I focused more on being kind than on being right?
There would be a whole lot more connection with others, a whole lot more love. That’s what.
So lately, I’ve been trying to remember Shirley and her wisdom when I bump up against my old pattern of needing to prove I’m right.
It’s amazing what a difference it makes. Relationships shift in such a beautiful way with that small little change in mindset.
You should try it out.
Forget being right.
Be kind.
Even just for today.
to more love,
Crystal
