boundaries

Surprising freedom

As usual, we did a few fireworks of our own last night.  Also as usual, there were a few surprises and it got a little out of hand at times.  If you’ve hung around me much, you’ve probably picked up on the fact that I’m a rule-breaker.  I don’t like limits (or burn bans, apparently).  I love being free.  I have secret dreams to have a flower and a peace sign painted on the while cover of the jeep that says, “Not all who wander are lost.”

No really, I do. 

There’s so much inside of me that screams for freedom.  I want no rules.  I want to be free to wander and explore and just “be me”.  Rules, processes, planning, especially meetings to make rules, processes or plan- they all really cramp my style and give me the heebie jeebies.  I simply must have the freedom to wander.

At the very same time, …

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When saying “no” isn’t fun

I’m supposed to be going on a field trip with one of my babies today.  It’s going to be a fun one too, they’re going to the butterfly gardens!  But I just can’t.  Thank goodness I’m not an “official chaperone” because then, I wouldn’t have a choice.  I was just planning to tag along.  Because of course, the chaperone sign-up went out on the day of the last HeartStories GNO, which means it got buried in my inbox so I didn’t see it until it was much too late to sign up.  But that’s a whole other story.  Today let’s just talk about the fact that momming is hard.  (Yes, “momming” is a word now.)  

Momming (momm-ing) v.: 1. Tapping into the reserves of strength you never knew you had. 2. Juggling all the things.

I spent the last three days with a house full of handy-people, and all of their mess, working to …

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Skating on thin ice

Consistent temperatures well below freezing have brought all sorts of adventures for the boys already this winter, even without precipitation.  We’ve stopped the car on side roads to break giant ice-cycles off of dripping fire hydrants.  We’ve learned that no matter the temperature, Oaks still prefers no shoes or coat.  He’s also the only one who’s stayed well.  Go figure.  I’ve learned that when it rarely ever freezes for this many days in a row, one must clearly articulate that there is to be NO STEPPING OUT ONTO THE LAKE.

Not even a little toe!

This year the lake froze over for the first time since the boys have been big enough to be out exploring alone.  So naturally, the first day they noticed it, they wanted to run down to “check it out” with their friends.  I obviously should have known better.  I said, “Okay.  But no one goes near it.  Do …

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Their kind of crazy

If your family is anything like mine, things can get a little crazy at holiday gatherings.  Like this one time we started a conga line through the house for no apparent reason at all.  (Okay, let’s be honest, that wasn’t the first time.)  Moving on.  The point is, all families have their own kind of crazy and most of us have “feelings” about what it’s going to be like to gather with the ones we love over the holidays.  This is especially true when it involves gathering with people we didn’t grow up with.

Because seriously, their kind of crazy just isn’t normal.  

Just ask Scott.  I don’t think he grew up dancing in a conga line through the house.  I’m thinking he probably didn’t do family olympics on Friday nights in the front yard for all to see either.  He’s had a lot to adjust to, spending time with my family …

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Far more loving

Tonight I fly out for an overnight trip to Washington DC to spend the day in a creative original facilitator workshop with my creativity coach, Michelle James.  I’m so excited to get this training straight from her, there just aren’t really any words.  I can’t wait to come back and share what I’ve learned in a way that will help you on your journey too!

In preparation this week, Michelle sent me a link to a video of Brené Brown talking about boundaries.

Talking about boundaries can feel loaded to some people.  In fact, you may have read that word and already checked out, mentally.  I know I want to.  The word itself signifies work and uncomfortable conversations.   Awkward moments with friends and family.

Eesh.  No thanks.

Well, of course, we know better.

We know that boundaries are good. We know that they protect us and the ones we love. It’s just that we probably …

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