While you were gone

While the boys are at camp, I’m knocking out my to-do list.  I’m accomplishing insane amounts of work.  I’m also letting myself get a little more sleep, which is proving to be something like a miracle drug.

You should totally try it sometime!

Scott sent me this picture this morning and instead of making my heart ache from missing my boy, it made me smile.  That sweet grin, his most sincere heart and that little head tilt of affection, meeting with my serious eyes and awkward knowing smile. . . it all reminds me how incredibly fond of him I am.  But sometimes when we’re together, I forget.  They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, and of course, “they” are right.

But only if it’s followed by reconnection.

In every relationship, short periods of distance build longing and desire to see one another again.  But distance, followed by distance. . .  and more distance does not build safe relationships.  It’s the joy of reconnection, the moment of proof – that you showed back up.

That’s the thing that builds trust and intimacy.  

The “Look, I’m here!  I came back for you!” moments are the ones that train our brains to know who is safe and can be trusted.  So if you’re wanting more connection in your relationships, absolutely, take little breaks.  But don’t put off the showing back up part.  It’s easy to be too busy, too scheduled, and too tired, but at the end of the day, or the week, or even the month . . .

It’s up to you to be the one to show up.  

It’s up to you to prove to the people you love, that they are worth your time and energy.

It might even be worth telling them,  “While you were gone, I remembered, just how fond of you I am.”

to more love,

Crystal

P.S.  Of course, if you’re looking for a way to show up and reconnect with your girlfriends here locally, we’ve done all the work for you.  All you literally have to do is show up together. . . tomorrow night.  I’d love to see you there.

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