The only way to have a friend

HeartStories Girl's Night Out in Friso, Texas

I held a small get-together with a very particular group of girlfriends in April.  It was the first time I’d ever been that intentional about inviting friends who don’t know each other, but should.  I poured over the list, not inviting everyone I knew and loved.  I invited only people I thought needed to meet for this specific experience.

It made me nervous.

It made me nervous because I’m an includer.  I want everyone together, always.  But what I saw happen that night was such a beautiful thing.  By joining women, who didn’t really know one another, in a more authentic and purposeful way, deeper connections were made.  Perceived judgements were shattered.

They showed up, opened up, and became friends.   

They showed up knowing it was an evening to support and uplift each other, not to judge.   It was beautiful to watch women show up for each other like that.   Sadly, it was different from the way it tends to go down on an everyday basis.

Sometimes we want so badly to be included, we sabotage friendship.

We sabotage our relationships because we show up thinking about how we’ll fit in.  We worry about what everyone will think of us.  We wonder if we’ll be accepted.

But friendship, shows up to love and to serve.

The only way to have a friend, is to be one.  ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you’re feeling lonely today, show up to love and serve with an open heart.

It’s the only way.

to more love,

Crystal

P.S. We learned so much from that experience, we’re doing it on a larger scale in June, would love for you to join us if you can.

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